Have you ever seen someone try so hard to fit it that the chord of pity rang throughout your heart? You know, the person who looks so painfully awkward like a dog in training looking for approval?
Well, what would you think if I proposed that all of us, to some degree, do the same thing when we just live each day to get through it? To go through the motions in order to pay the bills, to nail the meeting at work, achieve a pay raise? Doing stuff that isn't really the stuff we'd choose to do given the choice....all things that have actually been defined by someone else that we just fit our energy into in order to fulfill it.
We just pretend to fit in so that we can just get by until our real life can begin - for most folks, some goal in the future, like retirement.
These are only distractions that cast a shadow on our pure light , dimming it, and doing so, keep us small and confined by fear within the status quo.
And just like a flying monkey, most of us are pretending to be something that is just as mythical to the degree of how far it is from who we really are....unless who you really are is a flying monkey!
And I'm sure you've found, as you've continued on your journey, there are quiet voices telling you that all of this crazy pretending is becoming something that's not worth it. There's some level of discontent bubbling in the still deep waters.
Discontent, pain, dissatisfaction, buried anger are all good things despite the socialized belief we grow up under. These are the truth guard rails that urge you to remember who you really are, the "you" who doesn't pretend to fit in and get by. The you you'd be if you were truly free.
There is a way to unwind the different levels of pretending while staying in your integrity (e.g., staying productive rather than chucking it all to go on an extended trip to Tibet).
Unwinding the scripts of our lives, learned in our lifetime, from our ancestors, and the result of human evolution are easier to unwind, if you're brave (or just sick enough of) to diffuse their exaggerated grip on you. All you have to do is look at the dissonant things happening in your life to see how they conflict with your North Star, your truest expression of who you are.
Being honest in assessing if there are any parts of you that are pretending may be enough for you to consider if that applies to you. And if so, remediating that internally on how that can actually serve you to express your North Star is an easy way to start. And if you need more details, I explain this more in-depth in the True Life Roadmap.
Know that the bubbles of discontent are inviting you to let your North Star emerge so you can start living your life right now, without any major changes to your job or routine...and let all that pretending fall away.
And when each of us do this, more people benefit than we could ever imagine.