Ouch. You know how I came up with this list? I looked at my own experienced and matched it to what I saw in others while working for 34 years in corporate America.
Stop Feeding the Machine
“…set your course by the stars, not by the lights of every passing ship.” General Omar Bradley
Living your truth without compromised integrity, allows you to stop feeding the machine of control and polarity that keeps us separated from each other…and under the thumb of control, dictating who allows you to do what you want to do.
I’m talking about how you operate at work, since that’s where most of us spend our time, as well as how that trails into our home and time out in the world. From a real world perspective, a lot of the behavior that happens day to day stem from this notion of how much of your truth you bring to the office.
Your happiness grows or shrinks by how much you show up every day and how much you perpetuate the freedom/control trajectory.
I can assure you it is possible to be happy in the most unlikely place - your current work environment. In fact, that’s the only place it can begin.
I won’t prescribe what to do with your life but I can teach you how to start living it, starting with how to be happy even when you work for someone else.
Is this where you are?
The season has changed again or things aren’t changing at all except for your workload. “It” has caught up with you.
You followed the prescribed path of how to navigate the corporate world, or maybe you’re trying to figure it out like it’s some kind of secret society where none of the rules are written down.
And, you’re at the point of wondering why you are where you’re at. What happened?
I suspect that you aren’t been seen as your full potential because you’re not showing up 100%, either because you don’t know who that is, or how to do it without being attacked savagely by being too “fluffy” at work.
Authenticity is not about being a doormat but your most powerful, influential self without wasting excessive time or effort.
And, even though you always get through “it,” whatever “it” is, you’re finding that’s getting a little harder, takes a little more your spirit to stay relevant and get it done.
And maybe even that isn’t working anymore. Maybe leadership has gotten so bad that they’ve abandoned any sensibilities and are completely tone deaf. The business landscape has changed, and so has your job, or what you used to do has been phased or outsourced out. As things speed up, so does the pressure to perform but the support or resources, like time are frozen.
And maybe this is how your life is feeling. Not exactly where you thought you’d be especially for someone smart like you.
If any of these make you compromise your integrity, makes you feel small and controlled, then you’re in the right place right now.
The Freedom Scale
Ok, living your truth sounds so…pretty….so esoteric…so, WTF is Joy saying?, so let me break it down on how this plays out at work so you can assess where you currently fit.
Question 1: How often do you think about how screwed up your company is ALL. THE. DAMN. TIME?
If you answered anything other than, “Never.” welcome to the real world!
Question 2: How often does work pop into your mind like a meerkat scanning the horizon when you’re home, watching Netflix, commuting home?
If you answered, sometimes or all the time, you’re experiencing an intrusion into your space that belongs to you…and whatever space it’s taking up proportionately reduces your personal power and integrity.
Question 3: Do you have health issues like headaches (more than often), neck or back stiffness (from metaphorically carrying the weight or having a collar on what you can/can’t do), fatigue (from not getting to that deep sleep state), indulge in “therapy” (traditional, retail, alcohol)…or manage actual health issues like hypertension?
In all seriousness, if you answered yes to any of these, take care of yourself by whatever means you’re being told or pulled to do. THEN, lend me your ears and eyes. Stress signs are triggered both by hereditary disposition and the friction between what you want to do, who you really are against the b.s. of whatever is happening in your life, a lot of which is spent in the office.
Set up a session with me, I’d rather you take care of yourself before you HAVE TO take care of yourself, you know what I mean?
Do you think it’s hard to change?
Change is like heaven, everyone wants to go there but no one wants to die. Joel Peterson
Practical freedom and power at the root. Stop using only your mind to untangle where you waste your time and effort to liberate your power at work.
People outsource their guidance to those who are “qualified,” like leaders at work, enlightened ones (Buddha, etc.), therapists, etc. If that’s working for you, keep with it.
As an alternative, learn a different way to consult the expert who’s living your life: YOU. No one knows your backstory and how to get to the hidden undertow faster than you.
It’s so simple and fast, you’ll begin to wonder why it’s been so hard to figure out what surpassing happiness and purpose…because it doesn’t have to be.
What happens after you work with me?
I’ll teach you everything you need to be independent and confident that you’re on the right track. You’ll:
Create a legacy for your North Star while you are living your everyday life.
Be seen and heard at work without wasting your time and effort.
Be happy, against the odds of incompetent leadership.
Get what you “really” want.
“Know” what to do when life happens, because you’ll have a firm foundation that gives you a point to navigate from.
Never give your power away to those around you, no matter their position in the company or world at large.
Contribute to change in a meaningful way.
The End Game
This is what we’re all striving for, truth be told. How will I be remembered? Did I make a difference? Did I really live up to my potential?
Legacies are simply the trail of how you’ve touched people along the way. It’s not necessarily a wall or bench dedicated to your name in your favorite park.
You are building your legacy right now. Every day. At the office. At home. With your kids or furbabies. With your friends. With the glass of wine at the end of a shitty day.
If you’re ready to start living and building one of your choice, call me. I’ll show you your North Star, how to unwind what binds it, so your full power and influence creates your legacy to better the world starting today.
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