My Memorial Day realization. This holiday remembers those who, and their families, gave the ultimate sacrifice in service to this country.
I remember them with the greatest respect by hosting an annual dinner for retired military personnel.
Today, it also dawned on me that there have been many who sacrificed much in their individual lifetimes to move the fabric of this country’s, and the world’s, I might add, evolution forward as well to true freedom.
These are people who have always stood up with great courage to say, “I do not permit you to dominate or mistreat me.” In smaller ways than large unified movements like the #metoo movement which thankfully gives a unified face and voice through the benefit of big names and big money.
It’s people like them and me, who have unwound the scripts of oppression and vulnerability to domination, one solitary act at a time. Alone, yet just as powerful, if not more, because of the courage to declare in actions and words that no one is permitted to treat us in any way less than I am...without anyone backing them up.
And, many gave their lives in moving humanity to true freedom, without guns or strategic missions. They did so in ordinary everyday acts.
And, often, the things we stand up against are unseen forces we, like socialized domination beliefs, biases and circumstances that were bigger than one person, like legacies of judgement.
These are people who died a little bit inside to stand up against what wasn’t right in their own way and let go of what bound them up. They created space by risking not going with a flow that was going in the wrong direction. This isn’t easy.
For those of us who have always stood up alone to say our truth, the truth of respect, thank you for being the trailblazers, the ones who have cleared the way for unified movements and holidays to even come into reality.
Being first is always hardest and always unsung.
I know. I’ve done this by myself, a single bell ringing in my own life. Unwinding what bound me up, living elements of freedom through my actions, thoughts and words.
That’s why I teach what I teach. To show people that empowerment often is not a group moment but a lifetime flow of one having the courage to be true to themselves, often alone and unseen to the masses but allowing their blip of light to shake the universe...in quite personal and “small” ways.
Our individual truths may not seem as grand as those that get publicity or have an official holiday to commentate them but they are no less significant because what you do, what you say from the entirety of your being, especially when standing up to existing waves that seem unconquerable, MAKES A DIFFERENCE in unseen ways.
It matters. You matter every damn moment. No holiday needed for you because you embody it with every breath
You always have the space and unspoken permission to free yourself and the lineages of the past, if you choose to do so.
So, to expand the original honor allotted this Memorial Day, what part of your courage to you memorialize today?