Ladling your mind's wagon with positive thinking habits, visualizations, and mantras can certainly be helpful but when an unwanted thought pops up, a common reaction is, "On, no! I shouldn’t be thinking that I’m glad I caught myself. Now I can just layer a muzzle over that so I can stay on track.”
In reality, loading stuff on top of your true power leads to shoulds and shouldn’ts, moving your truth farther away from you.
It leaves you in a state of reaction to what happens instead of who you truly are….infinitely clear and in control always. Coupled with the magnetic pull of your North Star, you always have the space to discern what’s in your highest best interest.
Another possibility is to empty the wagon, giving the body, mind, and soul a chance to rise to the new homeostasis level together, until you don’t need the wagon at all.
You can slow time down to give yourself space to live there naturally is to picture 2 clocks in front of you - one that tells the time of how in-body you are and the other, how full of your soul is. Intuit the hands of both clocks moving until they point to the same time, then merge the 2 clocks into one. This visual exercise leads you to a natural state of being in present time always, without having to think about it so that you always have clarity to perceive what goes on around you….and then from that place of energy management, decide freely if the event is a should or shouldn’t.
In the space of the present time, where you always are, clarity and calmness always exist, enough to see what's in front of you for what it is and to have the chance to act from a place of full discernment that serves you and everyone around you.