Something happened this week, a tangle that could have choked me if it became a knot but rather, turned out to be a chance to really walk my talk.
Something I had toiled over for years that seemed like moving a mountain by myself, recently completed a few months ago, became tangled and it was very impactful to many people.
In the past, my initial reaction would have been panic and a putting on of a dramatic, heavy coat of responsibility for the tangle that would plunge me into self-doubt and self-criticism.
This time, I did something different that involved being grounded in my self-worth that exists no matter what happens around me. That no matter, I am worthy of my place on this earth and no matter how messed up things get, this truth is my truth. I am larger than any tangle that occurs in daily life and I believe tangles appear to reaffirm that fact.
That belief gave way to a calm anchor that allowed me to be clear about the next steps to figure out what happened.
To untangle the situation, I started with the most logical step to understand how big of a shit show it was going to be which meant pinpointing when it happened, how much was involved so that a forensic look at who exactly was involved at what specific time. All of this was done with neutral curiosity void of any need to find blame, especially towards me.
The findings yielded that others had innocently overlooked one aspect of the effort that narrowed down the next steps without any hint or shame or blame in the process.
I’ve often taken on what didn’t belong to me which allowed others to use me as their doormat, to wipe their feet on, denying them the chance to evolve in an accountable way I used to give my energy and power away to others to use.
That is no longer the case – I know myself at a much deeper level now so that I can respect my spirit in body that has a clear differentiation from those around me. I have always been accountable for things in life, even the stuff that didn’t belong to me.
Owning your power, having it contained in your soul gives you the power to pivot from your integrity no matter how things crumble or tangle around you, not to be hooked in a blind reaction.
And, no matter what happens, that pivot point becomes your saving grace in the big picture of your life as a tapestry.
Dealing with a tangle in life:
Notice degree of difficulty – Know that tangles are just a part of our life tapestry and in no way, diminish your radiance as a human being. For some, this takes patience but there is no getting around it. You are so much more wonderful than any problem experienced in one day or span of days in your life.
Identify the problem – Subjecting tangles to undue tension makes them more difficult to untangle. Stay calm and grounded so that clarity and wisdom lead you through the tangle.
Create some slack by using a tool or use a combination of pushing and pulling the threads that feed the tangle to get it to yield. This can be a combination of many things you’ve learned up to now but it excludes giving your power away by taking the responsibility of what doesn’t belong to you.